I remember watching a video of a lady who is in her 50s talking about life in your 30s—just thinking about it seems like your 30s is such a key decade; a lot of changes and a lot of growth happen or should be happening. But anyway, she spoke about a lot of things which I could relate to, but what stuck out to me is when she mentioned that good ol’ word ‘boundaries’. It got me thinking about the lack of boundaries I exhibited in my 20s and the sort of people that benefited from that. It’s safe to say they didn’t make the cut in my 30s.

I don’t know about you, but going along this journey, I’ve had a lot of moments where things have come up and served as reminders of what I allowed in the past. When those moments occur, I used to think to myself, “What the heck was I doinggg!? I can’t believe I allowed and tolerated such foolishness! Absolute craziness. ” You may even feel a sense of disappointment in yourself; I know I did. For me, it was because the person I am now becoming can’t believe or even imagine all the things that I tolerated. That person is almost unrecognisable.

Feeling like that is okay, and I guess a part of the journey. I have to remind myself that I didn’t know. You don’t know what you don’t know, so how can you change it if you didn’t know, you know? What keeps coming up for me whenever I get into that headspace – and I can be really hard on myself at times – is that I have to give myself grace. I didn’t know before, but now I do, so I can do better. Be better. As much as these growing pains feel uncomfortable, it’s all part of the process.

So, once the shock and disappointment of realising what I put up with in my past wore off, I can honestly say I like it here. I’m really liking and enjoying my 30s. I like the growth. The growth is growth-ing lol. I like the wisdom I’m gaining. I really like the view from here. I hope you guys do too, and remember to give yourself grace for things that you didn’t know, but now you do.

Until next time

Peace and love! x